Unoffendable!

My gym workouts are made bearable by three things: I know I need them, I go with my handsome hubby, and I watch podcasts that feed my spirit!

Today’s teaching came with a challenge*:

“Become unoffendable!”1 

Wow… Think about that for a bit.  I know it made me pause and process.

Our current American culture seems to be looking for offense around every rock and tree.  People of all ages and socioeconomic levels are embracing the tendency to be offended by any opinion that differs than their own.

As believers, we should be different, right?

Sadly, Christians have a well-deserved reputation of being easily offended.  We (and I use that word broadly) may find offense in how people dress, their political views, their colorful vocabulary, their opinions, and so on.

Conversely, Jesus was not offended… not by the poor, or by the demon-possessed, or by the coarse laborers, or by those caught in sin.  In fact, Jesus was not even offended by the doubters or the soldiers that nailed Him to the cross.

Jesus was and is the epitome of “Unoffendable!”

Have you ever found yourself in a conversation with a new friend and felt a real connection to them?  They like the same music as you, share the same tastes in food, and even have similar views on raising kids.  You think, “Wow, this is a great person. I hope we can hang out again!”  But then, a subject comes up that throws a wrench in that plan… a strong moral opinion, an opposing political view, a different stand on social topic, etc. and you emotionally slam on the brakes.  “Woah, I guess we are not as in sync a I imagined! I can’t believe they think that way.”  Thus begins an emotional withdrawal process because they are not as like us as we originally thought.

When we encounter people like ourselves, we feel validated.  Our human tendencies are to gravitate towards people who are similar to us.  We like when we see ourselves reflected in others!  However, we give ourselves permission to dislike or disassociate ourselves from people who are different than us.  We may even allow ourselves to dishonor people who do not share our beliefs or our way of life.  This is not the example that Jesus set for you and I.

{Caveat: There’s a difference between honoring people and allowing people authority in our lives.  It is not wise or healthy to allow just anyone the opportunity to speak into our lives.  However, we should honor all people as valuable.}

Consider Philippians 2:3-5 in the Passion Translation:

Be free from pride-filled opinions, for they will only harm your cherished unity. Don’t allow self-promotion to hide in your hearts, but in authentic humility put others first and view others as more important than yourselves. Abandon every display of selfishness. Possess a greater concern for what matters to others instead of your own interests. And consider the example that Jesus, the Anointed One, has set before us. Let his mindset become your motivation.

How easy it is for us, believers or not, to major on the minors!  As a friend recently said, “We tend to elevate the ways we are different instead of celebrating the ways we are the same.”2   Not only should we celebrate ways that we are the same, but we should choose to honor others in spite of or even because of our differences.  We don’t have to agree with others to appreciate who they are as a person. The beauty of diversity is the richness it brings to our sometimes ethnocentric lives.

WWJD is more than a slogan!  It is a reminder to us to think like Jesus thinks!  We as believers have the mind of Christ (I Corinthians 2:16) and the power of the Holy Spirit vibrating in us!  When we encounter people who believe differently than us, spout contrary opinions, or embrace a lifestyle contrary to our way of thinking, we can still choose to honor them and treat them with the love that the Heavenly Father carries in His heart for them.  We can choose to be unoffendable!

I’m convicted! I’m challenged!  How about you?

Live Loved,

1Listen to Danny Silk’s complete teaching on being unoffendable here.

2James Dodzweit teaches on Church Unity here.

*Originally published by DiscoveringJoy.net on June 18th, 2018

Favorite Friday: Upside Down Thinking

In the interest of transparency: This blog is about humility… not really one of my favorite things.  But when I listened to this teaching by Jen Toledo, it rocked my thinking and helped me better see the upside down thinking of the Kingdom of God.  Since the Kingdom of God is a favorite, then God’s keys to the Kingdom are my favorites too!

Jennifer Toledo is a co-pastor of Expression58 Church in LA.  I stumbled upon her teaching session 1 of a series on Kingdom Culture.1  Since this topic is close to my heart, I eagerly listened and learned… a lot!  Then, session two came around and brought with it some “ouch moments” as I took a hard look at myself and my way of thinking at times.2  It was a timely teaching that facilitates my goal of being Unoffendable, which I wrote about here. The text Jen chose was Philippians 2.  She read it in 3 different versions; the Passion Translation brought incredible clarity to the challenge of humility.

2So I’m asking you, my friends, that you be joined together in perfect unity—with one heart, one passion, and united in one love. Walk together with one harmonious purpose and you will fill my heart with unbounded joy.

Be free from pride-filled opinions, for they will only harm your cherished unity. Don’t allow self-promotion to hide in your hearts, but in authentic humility put others first and view others as more important than yourselves. Abandon every display of selfishness. Possess a greater concern for what matters to others instead of your own interests. And consider the example that Jesus, the Anointed One, has set before us. Let his mindset become your motivation.”

I’d encourage you to take the time to listen to Jennifer’s teaching Kingdom Culture-Humility as it simultaneously blessed me and challenged me.  Here are a few highlights:

  • Kingdom of Heaven culture is based in humility. (Jesus carried all authority on earth, but still chose to submit Himself to His Father’s will daily.)
  • Kingdom of Hell culture is based in pride. (Remember that satan guy?  He used to be an angel with authority until pride took over!)
  • Upside Down Thinking: The way up in the Kingdom of God is to humble ourselves before Him.  James 4:6 “But he continues to pour out more and more grace upon us. For it says, God resists you when you are proud but continually pours out grace when you are humble.”tPt
  • Humility values and protects relationship over winning a “discussion.”  (In other words, let go of the argument even if you are right!)
  • Humility builds healthy relationships but pride destroys relationships.
  • False humility is as detrimental as pride, both are self-focused.  Authentic humility understands the power and authority we have in Jesus, but lives a life submitted to the Father’s Will.
  • Humility and pride are not character traits but rather choices that we make.

These are a few comparisons between pride & humility:

 

Wow! As I continued reading Philippians 2, what a beautiful example of humility was set by Jesus!  At any time He could have taken advantage of His equality with God.  He could have justified being entitled to Heavenly privileges because of Who He was, but He chose not to.  I want to be like Jesus… even in the difficult things.  Lord, help me embrace humility!

Live Loved!

1Listen to session one of the Kingdom Culture Expression58 series here.

2Listen to session two of the Kingdom Culture Expression58 series here.

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